Thank God Bex posted, finally!! I was dying from the urge to butt in and post anyways, but I didn't, because I refused! I guess it's part of that *demanding* Bex was talking about! And boy, did she have a point.
We are very demanding. The most demanding, by far, simply because of scheduling is Bex. With kids, work, LAW SCHOOL, and a husband, she BY FAR has the most demanding schedule. The other end is Tink who is the most flexible. And Lu and I fall somewhere in between. And, yes, *calender time* is, without fail, (deeeeeep breath!) a loud, fast-paced, try-to-keep-up EVENT that takes practice to survive. Imagine 4 women saying, or rather, saying louder than the others, what things they have to work arowhat days work best for her. *So much fun*. As in: not my favorite part of the night - but I would die without it. It actually manages to keep my whole life scheduled, which I need.
I guess, though, aside from the overall intimidation factor, Bex hit the nail on the head with the whole commitment thing. And let me defend ourselves by saying this: the reason we demand nearly perfect attendance is because we all know how life works: It's just like working out - once you make an excuse to skip once, and you know you can get away with it, you will continue to push the workout aside and keep skipping. Making time for yourself is so important, yet so easy to postpone. So we just simply don't allow it. Get your ass to Girlz Night - even if you just sit there and mope - or else.
And no one has the nerve or the desire to find out what the *or else* is, but I imagine it looks somewhat akin to 3 women pounding on your door, screaming "WE KNOW YOU'RE IN THERE! NOW OPEN UP THE DAMN DOOR AND LET US IN!" I don't know, but probably.
Because Bex is right - we have invited Janel back - with the condition that she be able to come every week and she hasn't decided to take us up on that. I think the literal distance is also a big factor in this. We all live just miles from each other, and we couldn't imagine it any other way. Even Lulu would have stayed in Bex's basement if she couldn't find anywhere within 5 miles to live. That is what makes our schedules work - everything is in or around Tiny Town.
We have held Girlz night at one child or another's sporting event [indeed, we actually MET Tink at one] if we couldn't find a free night together. "Well, it looks like next week's is at [insert boy child here]'s baseball practice because there is no other option" has been said on many occasions. And if we didn't all live so close, why would someone drive 20-30 minutes to do that? When Girlz Night is right down the street, it's hard to find an excuse not to go.
Janel is the perfect example - she is fun, she likes us, we see her at lots of family events [she's my and Bex's cousin] and she really clicks with us. But she lives a good half hour away. Plus, she's not a mom. Which is the my last point. [Even if I took a whole damn post to get to it, I did have a point.]
We all have kids - and more precisely - we all have at least one 4th-5th grader. Every single one of us - Lea, Itchy, Mo and Jules. Yes, we have others older and younger, and the age span ranges from 3-17, but we are all going through the SAME parenting challenges. How many times have we said "I wanna kill my kid"? [Tink doesn't count, her count would be off the charts anyways, so in true girlz fashion, when you're winning by too much, you're just evicted from the game. True story.] And no one bats an eyelash because we all GET IT. We all get that we don't really wanna kill our kid, but we kinda do wanna. Know what I mean? NO? Well, that's why you're not part of the Girlz Club.
See? I proved an additional point: we are all bat shit crazy and we like it.
And with that, I tag-back BEX to think up a new question. *evil chuckles* We know you can squeeze it in - and really, thinking of a question and tagging someone is actually easier than putting thought into a whole post-answer.
So, you're welcome. *more evil chuckling...bwahahahhahahaha* and *exaggerated wink!*
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
Oh Fuck. So Many Reasons....(Zaad)
Posted by DM at 5:14 PM
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OMG there were soooo many people that said..."you know, there are some pretty great places out this way you could afford" and before they could finish the sentence I replied with "there is NO WAY IN HELL I am leaving the town I live in!" You were absolutely correct...I could never move away from my girlz!
I know *pot-stirrer* has talked numerous times about moving to "better" locations... even last night he was talking about getting out of Michigan....
And I try to not be the dream killer and go along with it... I said we need to go somewhere warm all year round tho...
He looked me and said "you will never move, i know you..."
And he's right ... not unless my girlz and my family moved with me!
I'll come. So will TG. There are banks everywhere, aren't there?
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