How do you spell moron?

Z-A-A-D.

I just typed my entire post for my other blog and hit publish and saw that it ended up here.

....sigh....

I had to cut it, paste it, re-format it and re-publish over there.

...sigh...

I am a moron. But HEY! Go look, lol.

It Will Happen To You Too Tink!!! (Lulu)

Ok so I came to a major realization this morning....Bex and Zaad have completely changed me. Bex is the girliest of us all....and Zaad....well her brutal honesty makes ya look twice. Where Bex may look at you and say "ummmm...that outfit has to go" Zaad would say "oh my god what the hell happened to you!! That is sooooo ugly!" Now we do love the honesty but let me explain what I mean. The following is "ME" before the two of them got ahold of me.

1. JEANS - the baggier the better cuz thats whats more comfy
2. T-SHIRTS - same as above
3. SKIRTS/DRESSES - only for weddings or funerals and even then I usually wore dress pants instead
4. HEELS - hhhhheeeeeelllllllllll NO!
5. MAKEUP - eeeewwwwwww too much work
6. HAIR - ponytail covered by a baseball hat
7. SHOPPING - only when absolutely necessary (which means just grocery shopping)

so now you get the basic idea about the old me. Now the new "ME"

1. JEANS - they better fit nice and btw....do these pants make my butt look big?
2. T-SHIRTS - there are 2 kinds. The old ugly baggy ones that are only to be worn around the house when you are working out AND nobody other than the family will see it. Then there are the cute ones that fit nice and show off the good parts about your body
3. SKIRTS/DRESSES - really cute and actually quite comfy....even when you are not even leaving the house and nobody else will see it.
4. HEELS - I actually own several pairs and don't fall on my face when wearing them anymore
5. MAKEUP - must have a minimum of mascara and eye liner before leaving the house
6. HAIR - whats a baseball cap? Hairspray, bed head, curling irons, hair dryers, and mousse are now my best friends and can't be lived without
7. SHOPPING - anyone ready to go? I haven't gone in a few days and I am going thru withdrawls

What made me realize the change was when I was running late for work but couldnt leave because I hadn't done my hair or makeup. Not to mention the fact that I had a mental struggle over what coat to wear. I have an old ugly one that used to be my daily coat but now is only used when I am doing something that will get it dirty. Well I had a dirty job to do at work but I didn't actually want to be SEEN in public with that thing on. I knew I had to stop at the store before work so I finally decided to wear my cute coat and put the ugly coat in the truck so I could change before doing the dirty job. What the hell happened to me?! Life was so much easier when I didn't care how I looked! yeah yeah I know the whole "look good, feel good" thing is true but damn! And ya know what.....I have already started to notice the suttle changes in Tink. Before ya know it they will have their claws fully into her as well!!! Oh well, what ya gonna do? Just accept it and move on I guess.

Ok, Ok, Ok... (Bex)

Alright, Already!

I will no longer step down; I will maintain the control I am accustomed to and obviously, you all are accustomed to!!!

I always get razzed about needing to be in control; and I had to prove to myself and you all that I could do it. And I did; I only slipped one time and that was what time the pizza needed to be at the house! And you guys (Zaad and Lu, Lu especially!) did fine, the party was a hit!

But as long as EVERYONE is in agreement... I will maintain control... It is my comfort zone after all!!!!

It Was A Very Happy Birthday (Zaad)

I about to write a letter to Rie for his birthday, it is a tradition that I started a couple of years ago and it will be posted on my other blog. But, I figured that my comment to Lu's blog would be long so I felt that I would just post something:

I thought we had a very successful party in every way possible. Both boys had a great time and I think all of the guests had a lot of fun.

But, HOLY SHIT, were Lulu and I like fish outta water!! Having us run a party without Bex being in control is like telling Lulu and I to fly a plane and not crash it. You want us to do what??

Yes, we are so used to Bex being the boss and in control that not only do we like it, we need it. And we rely on it. (Proof: when I move, Bex actually directs and unpacks my shit. NO, I am not kidding.) After about the third time I heard Bex say "It's not my party, it's just my house..." I wanted to say "YES! But you're YOU! And we don't function without instruction!!!"

But we did fine, I think. But in the future, jsyk, puhleeze just fill the role you were born into and tell us what to do and when. We don't mind. And in exchange, we will continue to tell you how damn skinny you look.

Everyone in agreement? I thought so.

Happy Birthday (Lulu)

Let me start by saying that I started out as a good mom....I took the camera....and I took pics....then I forgot to bring the camera home with me! So the pics will have to wait until I get my camera back.

So my big gray hair turns 16 on Monday!!! Today the girlz and I threw him a surprise (and yes we actually kept it a surprise) birthday party. And to make the day even better we also had the Rie-mans bday party as well!! Having everyone together to celebrate was the best feeling EVER!!

Unfortunately for Cody his birthday falls during a time of year when we are always broke. And I don't mean that moneys a little tight....I am talking about the can't even find a single penny broke and theres no food in the fridge broke. So for years I have always felt that he has gotten the shaft as far as birthday parties go. But thanks to the fact that our businesses are doing a little better and the fact that I have the BEST girlz in the world....Cody did not get screwed this year. Bex opened her house for the party and by doing both parties together I could split the cost.

The husbands were in rare form and not only behaved but actually had fun. And best of all the kids had an absolute blast. On the drive home my son actually said Thank you about a million times and kept saying it was so great and that it was the best birthday EVER!! It just made me feel so good that we could all make this major milestone for him special. Of course he kept bragging about how much money he got...which I know did not make Riley happy cuz he wanted the loot and even brought it to my attention that I did not give him any cash! But Bex made that all ok by giving him the BIG present so of course she is the #1 aunt!

I do have a little note for Bex though....You really don't have to give up control. None of us mind and damn!!! I am sooooo not good at this party planning shit and its a hell of a lot easier when you just tell us what to do! I did it and yes I am proud of myself but it really wont hurt my feelings if you just take over next time ok!

Thanks girlz for making this day so great for my boy. He is really special and he deserved to finally have a good birthday. You will never know just how much today meant to me to see him smile the way he was and to hear him be so excited that we had done all of this for him!

To be RIGHT... (bex)

Ok, so there was another blow-up at the Bex's household last night...

(thanks to Tink for letting Itchy spend the night, cause he was not there to listen to the fight; poor Pooh, tho...)

And thankfully I have a sister who lives only a mile away... because immediately after the explosion I decided to act like a man and leave... so I left the house and for a second when I was standing on the porch I had the thought "now what? where do I go?" and rest assured by the time i got to my car, I knew I was headed to my sista's!
[although, as a mom, i actually had a tinge of guilt for leaving Pooh with his Dad, something I don't usually do after a fight... Sorry Pooh!]

And, I am sorry to Brian, because everytime this happens with the Pot-Stirrer and I; I go to Zaad... and Brian is there... and unfortunately for him, he has to bear with my ranting and give us (Zaad and I) time for the Bitch Fest that ensues...

But, back to my title... I feels really good to know that I am right this time. It is not often, I admit, that I can admit that I am wrong; but, when I know I am right ... I know it! And, this time, I know it! I won't bore you with the details, but... there is a serious "Lack of Communication" problem. And it is not on my part. Fortunately, or unfortunately, I communicate. Maybe too much... but that is how i get through life. The pot-stirrer actually said "I was waiting for you to figure it out and to fix it"... and said it in a manner like he was right for testing me; like it is ok to withhold important emotions, or facts, just to see if the significant other can figure it out... And then get really mad when the other person doesn't figure it out... Cause guess what...

WE ARE NOT MIND READERS. I HAVE NEVER CLAIMED TO HAVE THE ABILITY TO SEE INTO ONE'S SOUL AND KNOW WHAT IS BOTHERING THEM...

There is such a calm about me now... (not last night, Zaad witnessed the shaking hands of anger) but I know inside me that I will not tolerate being tested. [Shit, like i am not tested enough? child with ADHD, law school, toddler... I am tested enough] I will NOT be tested by my own husband. That is not how TEAMWORK is done. Teamwork is done with cooperation, communication, and a willingness to want to work together NOT as adversaries.

Oh, to be right. It is such a pleasing, calming feeling.

AHHHHH...LIFE CAN GO ON! (LULU)

Now I feel I can function again. Why? Cuz I had my girlz night THATS WHY!!!!! I knew I was addicted....but didn't realize how bad until it had to be postponed by 2 WHOLE STUPID DAYS! Now I feel that things are in order again and that I wont strangle everyone who crosses my path. Life is good.